Sending Your Wrestler Out of town to Compete
As many High School age wrestlers are making their way to Fargo later this week, I wanted to write something that just might help your wrestler-and you. I am the Father of 4 children and 3 of them are under 12 years old. I understand separation anxiety. Here is the problem. When your child goes out of town to compete many parents will bombard social media with their anxiety of having their little BEAST staying in a faraway place with other kids and most often in a hotel or motel for days. They will tell the World how much they miss them, most often within minutes of leaving the homestead. A lot of times the parents will even tag (tag is where you include the name of someone that you want to get notified of your post) their child or children. They will include how much they love them, miss them, wish they were still at home and to be safe. All of this is with the greatest intentions in mind BUT have you ever thought what this does to your child’s mental mindset?
Many kids will be missing their parents as well. They may not show this at home but they usually will show signs that an observant Coach will pick up on. Especially if the Coach is someone that travels with their team quite often. I called Coach Brent Harvey of Michigan Women’s Wrestling Team, Eastern Michigan University Women Wrestling and War of the Roses Girls wrestling series to get his take on this subject. Coach Harvey travels an average of 15-20,000 miles per year strictly for wrestling.
I asked Coach Harvey this question: “what would you tell the parents of a young wrestler that is traveling out of State and spending several nights in a hotel room?”
Coach Harvey responded with this: “I would ask the parents to fight back the urge to put your sad and emotional feelings about your wrestler leaving on social media. I understand how the parents feel, I have 2 daughters myself. When they let everyone know how sad they are and how much they miss their young wrestler, their wrestler reads these posts too. Many times they don’t show their parents how much they will miss them-they want to put up a tough front. Year after year there are always a few of my wrestlers that get affected mentally because they feel they are causing Mom and Dad a little more anguish than they wish. Parents, please tell the world, and your wrestler, how excited you are for them, how proud you are of them and how you know they are ready for that particular competition. Keep things positive and then you can cry into your pillow.
Coach Harvey has been traveling all over the country with his women wrestlers for a number of years now. He may be one of the best sources for this information so I would encourage you to follow his information. If you’re paying the tab for a trip such as this I’m sure you want the best performance possible from your wrestler. Freestyle Nationals in Fargo is right around the corner so please try this on this event.
Mike Houston, Manager
Brent Harvey, Contributor for this article.
Owner: War of the Roses Girls Wrestling Series or www.waroftheroseswrestling.com