Not everyone supports women’s wrestling. Sad but true.
I have removed the identifying content in this story that was sent to me last year to protect the family.
My daughter “joined” the wrestling team for BLANK SCHOOL last year. She had wrestled before under the Youth Program led by Coach JIM SHOE who is also on your Facebook page. She wanted to wrestle at the high school level in hopes she could become good enough to have a college scholarship. That was her goal.
She was met with MUCH discrimination from day one of open mats. She was told by other wrestlers on the team that Coach wanted her “taken out”. I personally spoke to a couple of the boys and they did in fact confirm the story. My daughter was made to wrestle the heavyweight for the team that also was a football player. At the time they wrestled he weighed 285 and my daughter weighed in at 148. My daughter was sent to the ER on 3 separate occasions during the few weeks she was on the team. One time was for a neck injury because she was thrown into the wall and landed on the top of her head twisting her neck, was diagnosed with a neck sprain. The other times were due to shoulder injuries from being put in illegal moves by wrestlers outweighing her by 40 plus pounds. The last shoulder injury put her on restrictions for over a year!!!!
Now, here is the great part of this story. My daughter called me from practice one day before the last injury and told me that Coach had pulled all the boys aside and had a private chat with just them. During said chat, the boys were looking over at my daughter and smirking. One of the boys came over to my daughter and said’ “he wants us to take you out”. I immediately got into my car and drove to the school to confront him. Coach, my sister, and I stood in hallway to the wrestling room and had a screaming match. I confronted him about the stories that were being told to me and he in fact DID NOT deny them. I also confronted him about why he had an issue with a girl on the wrestling team to which he responded, “girls have no moth** fuc**** business on a wrestling mat”. Yes Sir those were his exact words to me. We were at that point yelling at each other and I told him I could not believe he would say that to the mother of wrestlers. He again said that was his belief and nothing would change his mind. I called the athletic director the very next day and told him about all the issues and concerns I had regarding this coach and he did look into it and the coach ADMITTED he said all those things to me. NOTHING was done. My husband and I took our concerns to the Superintendent of the school district, which was this coaches uncle in law. So yea, nothing was done.
It is no secret this “coach” does not want “girls” on his team.. I have witnessed this man TURN HIS BACK on a girl ON HIS TEAM when she was on the mat wrestling. He was the assistant at the time and could do nothing about her being on the team BUT he refused to coach her on the mat or work with her in practice. MANY complaints have been filed against this coach, but for some reason the school will do nothing about it. He has been reprimanded for many offenses that have happened on school grounds, yet he is still there. He has done nothing to improve the program in this school. We had 2 very good girl wrestlers on the youth team that are now in Middle school. Both have REFUSED to wrestle because they know they will not be allowed to wrestle once they reach the High school. This is sad. I hope there is a way you can try to help this school district rid itself of a sexist coach. He is doing us no good.~ anonymous to protect the family from reprisal.
What would you do if this was your daughter wrestler? Although I believe we (wrestling community) are making great strides in women’s wrestling, the fact is not everyone supports this. In fact, like the actions of this Coach and fellow wrestlers, they can be causing great physical, mental, emotional and financial harm.
Mike Houston, Manager
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